What Are Your Options For Having Kids As A Gay Man?

What Are Your Options For Having Kids As A Gay Man?

What Are Your Options For Having Kids As A Gay Man?

Ever wonder what your gay parenting options are? You are not alone. Most LGBTQ members in Nigeria often dwell with the ignorance that having kids as gay is impossible. But it isn’t. You do not need to cage yourself in a heterosexual marriage because you need a kid. There are options for you, options you will be willing to try and have kids of your bones, flesh, and blood. OH YES!

Now you are boiling with curiosity. If so, read on!

There are three main options when it comes to having kids as a gay couple. Each of these options comes with their requirements and procedure. As you already know, gay right isn’t recognized in Nigeria, and as thus, you will need to try out these options in gay-friendly countries.

In a gay-friendly country, you can have kids as a gay couple by opting for adoption, surrogacy, and IVF. In this article, you will be guided on each of the options. It will help you make a better selection of the one that suits you.


There are standard procedures for gay couples looking to adopt. The LGBTQ community has expanded their families through adoptions for a long time. Although every adoption process is unique, there are some steps you must follow.

When you and your partner have decided to adopt, you need to conduct your research and explore the avenues for adoption, including foster homes. In some countries, the gay couple has to be legally recognized for this to work. Some of these steps include;

  • Setting up an adoption profile
  • The adoption home study

When the requirements are met, going home with that beautiful baby becomes possible.


When it comes to parenting options for gay couples, surrogacy seems to be very popular. In the LGBTQ community, surrogacy is achieved using an egg donor. IVF and gestational carrier. However, note that the process is the same for any intending parent.

For gay couples, they have to decide whose sperm is used for fertilization. Some opt for fertilizing multiple eggs using both partners’ sperm. It allows either of them or both to be the biological father of the child.

Vitro Fertilization (IVF)

For gay couples seeking other options to have kids, here is another popular path. You will have to meet with your physician to discuss in detail the egg donor and the gestational carrier if pregnancy must be achieved through Vitro fertilization. The egg donor might be someone anonymous, or someone known.

Final say

Being gay doesn’t mean you can’t have kids of your own. You can! The only downside to these options is that it is costly. But what is money compared to the joy of having a family of your own? So, do not be afraid. There is a future in being gay. You can have those kids of your dream! Which of the gay parenting options would you go for?


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